“You must learn a new way to think before you can master a new way to be.” — Marianne Williamson
Your present is always being written. And yet, there’s nothing so beautiful as rewriting your story. One of the best decisions you’ll ever make is to learn how to make sense of your past. Not to dwell in the past, but to learn from it and use those lessons to fuel your present and future progress.
I’m such a big believer in reflection, because it allows us to revisit our past in a healthy, nurturing way so that we can more clearly focus and efficiently tackle our present. When you’re willing to look at the best parts of yourself, the most valuable lessons, as well as improving upon things that didn’t go as well, you’re making progress.
We even have the opportunity to rewrite the stories of ourselves that we maybe didn’t love. This is all about reinvention. A willingness to live in the present by acknowledging that you truly have the control and power to craft the life you want for yourself.
Once you’ve done this, you’ve hit the Restart button.
This isn’t a “wiping the hard drive clean.” It’s a restart. Just like when you refresh your computer and do that cleanse that the machine needs, you can do the same thing for yourself.
The mistake that some people make is thinking that they need to throw everything out from their past. Even, to junk the parts of their present that seem to be failing them. I’ve found that in most circumstances, rarely is that the case. What do I mean?
You may not be in the right job today — but that doesn’t mean that the skills you’ve acquired, relationships you’ve built or lessons you’ve learned are all for naught. No way! You need to take your progress, bank it, then use it to catapult you forward to what you really want!
You may be coming out of a tough personal relationship where it becomes easy to doubt yourself. But I bet the more you beat yourself up, the worse off you are. All the self-hating and convincing yourself that you’re no good won’t do a darn thing. Despite the hurt, pain and broken feelings, I bet you’re going to come out stronger once you grieve, learn and get closure.
And just because that dream you’ve been thinking, praying about and working for hasn’t come true yet, doesn’t mean it’s time to panic and completely give up. The point is — you’ve probably made so much more progress than you think. Be decisive, but be decisive about re-calibrating, fine-tuning and hitting the Restart button on a new strategy that will tweak your direction and hopefully point you on to bigger and bolder results.
“Genius is the ability to renew one’s emotions in daily experience.” — Paul Cezanne
Despite my success as a blogger and author, I’ve had some down moments of wondering whether my time and words have really mattered. Should I just give up and stop writing?
But I continue to receive these little reminders and “sign posts” along my journey that always point me toward continuing onward. Those “Keep Going” moments that light the fire inside of me and empower me, letting me know that I’ll never stop. My writing has led to speaking and doing workshops that bring value to lots of people.
It’s given me multiple platforms to express myself and make a living doing it. It fulfills me. I just had to restart my mental and emotional energy. I had to restart my strategic direction. I had to restart my belief of what was possible.
What’s possible for you?
Be willing to take a closer look and reflect upon your past. It will guide your present. You can then write the script you want for yourself. It’s your story. Go live it.
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